just when i thought i couldn’t possible write more about being pregnant… (2300 words. sorry.)
I cannot belieeeeeeve I’m going to have a baby in a few weeks. Like really, I cannot believe it. I cannot fathom it. It’s like I’m outside of my body and watching the entire thing happen because I really just don’t get it?
And I totally just ate chex-mix for lunch so seriously, how can I be a mom soon?
Do as I say, not as I do?
I’m also convinced that he or she will come any day now since I’m still so unprepared.
Okay, not TOTALLY unprepared, I guess I’m just not a normal person and don’t have a nursery done, don’t have a bag packed, don’t have things organized, etc? In my last post I mentioned that the nursery furniture wouldn’t be here until late November, so the baby’s room is still just kind of… filled with a bunch of random baby stuff. I don’t have any clothes washed or anything. I see many women who are 20 weeks pregnant and already have this stuff completely finished. I’m like whaaaaaat. What’s wrong with me.
I know that I don’t really even need all that *stuff.* We mostly have everything we “need,” I just have to finish sorting/washing/preparing in the next few weeks. The nursery is not even painted and I don’t have one single thing to hang on the walls, so I’m hoping to do that too. My friend Lisa has been a lifesaver in that area and keeps saying “you only need a week!” and it makes me feel semi-normal and like it’s doable. Once the nursery is all set up, I’ll certainly show you some photos but it could be after the baby is here.
I will tell you this: the theme is mostly centered on books and Shel Silverstein. When I came up with the idea, I pretty much burst into tears because it felt so RIGHT and was like childhood all over again. GAH. I can’t even wait.
The two things that we don’t have yet are a baby monitor and a stroller. I’m leaning towards one of the motorola monitors, but give me your input! Reading reviews is a nightmare because they are always split down the middle and I get so hung up on one negative one out of thirty positives. It also seems like these monitors all break within a year so that totally blows.
I mentioned weeks ago that we were leaning towards the Uppababy stroller and I think that is probably what we will go with. I’ve been researching them a bunch and at some point, we will purchase it. I did buy a snap and go stroller (in the midst of having a meltdown of omgIhavenothingforthebaby!!!) for around $60 at Target and have heard great things and witnessed a few in action.
Yesterday I did have a momentary lapse when I saw a Stokke stroller at Nordstrom and immediately started to freak over how chic it was and the gorgeous design and fabric and what not. It just looked AWESOME. But after reading about it for a few hours I was finding more negatives than positives and definitely more positives about the Uppababy stroller (like SPACE to lug snacks and crap!) overall.
Did I really just write paragraphs about strollers? I don’t know what my life is.
One more thing: I’m planning on using this as my diaper bag. I completely copied the idea from my cousin’s best friend. The bag is soft (and I wanted something black to hide dirt) and seems easily clean-able. It has zippered pouches inside too. I really love it so we’ll see how it goes.
As for how I’m feeling… I’m still feeling really good. This baby moves constantly and sometimes the kicks are so strong that I end up doubling over a little. It’s nuts. I feel so insanely lucky, grateful and am in constant disbelief of how fortunate I have been the last few weeks, or should I say the entire second and third trimesters. I say this, not to brag, but because I truly feel it since I know how difficult pregnancy can be for tons of people. No swelling, no heartburn, no over-tiredness or anything. I really thought I would be the opposite and would have all of those things happening, but I also always assume the worst because I’m a headcase. I was mostly just very afraid of these things happening due to the hectic travel and the fear of something happening while I was away by myself.
I’m well aware (and even prepared?) for these (and more uncomfortable) things to happen in the last few weeks, but I’m just taking the days as they come. I’ve said it before but I’ll say it again – the crazy schedule I’ve had has prevented me from obsessing or focusing on one thing very heavily, and for me I think that has been key. We took our child birth classes at the beginning of the second trimester and have somewhat prepared in a few ways, but in other ways? I haven’t even thought about giving birth. As in, worried about it or freaked over it. This is probably terrible of me but I get can O.B.S.E.S.S.I.V.E. so for my mental health, this has been wonderful.
I do feel a bit uncomfortable after I eat – even if it’s not that much. I’m so short that sometimes when I sit I feel like the bump is up in my neck and face (like when I was trying to sit cross-legged and carve a pumpkin last week!) and that it’s just all… over me. After long days on my feet, like maybe eight or ten hours, I sometimes have pain right around my tailbone, but it’s nothing excruciating. When 9PM hits, I can’t wait to get on the couch and do some busy work and watch TV. That’s been my routine. I still don’t sleep much… but I’ve never slept much. Like ever. Many times I wish sleep didn’t even exist so I could just get things done all the time and be out living. Even though that is the case, I knoooow I’ll be begging for sleep in a matter of weeks.
With that being said, I still don’t 100% love being physically pregnant. I like it – which surprises me. I love it in the fact that I’m going to have a baby and I hope that I can have a lot more. I love it in the sense that I feel lucky that I get to be pregnant, that my body has been good to me. But I don’t feel like myself physically or emotionally. Last month I started feeling very down in the dumps one day for zero reason at all. It snowballed and the next six days I was full of anger and hate and awfulness and depression. Total mess. I could NOT get myself out of it! It scared the crap out of me – 1. thinking that it might continue until I gave birth (it did go away, thank goodness) and 2. increased my already very real fears of the postpartum period.
Umm… pretty sure Eddie didn’t even know WHAT to do with me. Or himself. My mom came over and I just stood in the kitchen screaming, haha. I was a cahrazy person. I mean, very often I’m always all up in my own head but this was hormones to another LEVEL. Looking back on it now, it was quite hilarious. (but not really.)
If anything, that week reminded me that if I am not active and not exercising and find myself eating garbage, that I will feel like garbage. Duh. I learned this long ago but it was a good reminder to be back on track and be PRESENT about how I’m treating my body. With the last month of travel most formal workouts continued to go by the wayside, but there is rarely a moment that I’m sitting around. If it’s possible, I’ve been more active this pregnancy then I was before. That has REALLY helped me feel good.
Stuff I’m wearing and loving? Mostly the same stuff I mentioned weeks ago. On days when I’m working at home and running around, I’m still living in my very old and very non-maternity lululemon wunder unders (crops and full length) and athleta metro pants (again, crops and full length). They are so comfortable. I’m still loving all the tops at athleta and they stretch so perfectly with the bump. By some miracle of God I can still wear my normal jeans (I love the american eagle jeggings) with a belly band. I have no idea how this is possible and I think my entire family is in shock too, haha. Man, it’s a fabulous thing to not have to hold in your stomach or worry about unbuttoning your jeans after a giant meal.
Speaking of, I can finally say with certainty that my appetite is HERE! It’s back and I feel slightly more normal than I did the first 30 weeks of pregnancy when I wasn’t ever hungry. I still cannot eat anywhere near the amount of food that I could before, but this has been an incredible 34+ weeks of intuitive eating. I love it. I’m hoping it’s been an awesome refresher lesson and when I’m no longer pregnant, I don’t start eating like a teenage boy.
Eddie is so excited – in fact, I’m not sure I’ve ever seen him so excited and RELAXED and calm about anything. He is not scared or nervous at all. I’m actually blown away at both of our attitudes about the entire thing. Instead of being the typical first born, type A, psycho freaks that we normally are, we’ve been pretty laid back and cool about the last 20ish weeks. Besides my first trimester when I was a complete basketcase full of fear THE ENTIRE TIME. In the very early days of my pregnancy, I mentioned that I read one book, the panic free pregnancy. It was either in that book or somewhere else that I read the line about “pregnancy not being an illness” and just being another stage of life. I obviously KNEW this, but reading it at the time really settled in my brain and I believe that not changing my routines, not physically restricting myself and continuing to do almost everything I’ve always done (with the except of super hot yoga – WAH!) has also been really beneficial.
We know that our lives are going to hugely change and we are completely expecting it, but other than that, we don’t have any expectations – good or bad. We’re ready for it! Maybe it’s because we are kind of… old(er)? Ha.
What else? Last weekend was baby shower weekend! It was such an incredible day with family and friends. I only almost cried about 37.4 times.
The shower was at Avenue B and oh my gosh… we had the best food ever. Obviously I need to tell you about that part. I was way too much in the moment that I forgot to snap a photo of the menu, but it started with roasted pear and gorgonzola flatbreads and butternut squash soup shooters with maple crème fraiche. Salad was an apple, endive and pomegranate salad with honey sage vinaigrette. The entrée choices were breakfast risotto (which I got below, and which came complete with pancetta, pork belly AND maple sausage), grilled shrimp, white cheddar and kale quiche with smoked tomato hot sauce, arctic char with leeks, mushrooms, farro and black garlic aioli or roast chicken with squash cavatelli and arugula pesto.
DEAD. It was so, so good.
Oh oh! And we also had this cider punch which was to die for. They sent me home with some leftovers – which we promptly devoured on Halloween. I’m currently trying to recreate this because 1. it was so fantastic and 2. it’s non-alcoholic but can easily be boozed up. Total crowd pleaser. It’s more “autumn-y” than apple cider-y, so I think it will be ideal for Thanksgiving. Hopefully I’ll have the recipe up in a week or two.
For dessert, we had the most neon funfetti cupcakes and mini donuts and these blinged out bon bons that Lacy brought. Hello, dream come true. All I want is to eat glitter and neon. They were perfection. (and from bella christies and lil’ z’s, for you locals!)
Annnd we did little succulents as the favors tied in sparkly jewel toned ribbon (with a tiny note attached to “nourish as baby grows”), which aren’t exactly seasonally appropriate but were so adorable. And somewhat useful/decorative I guess? I know so often that favors just get left on the table, so I loved this idea.
I do have to tell you: if you follow me on Twitter, a few weeks ago I mentioned finding this unicorn rocker. AHHHH. It was so cute. I’ve never been overly concerned about gender stereotypes and am certainly not worried about them, but for a moment it did cross my mind that it might be… “too girly.” Everyone on twitter said “to hell with stereotypes!” (I agree) and I also texted me brother to hear his thoughts, to which he immediately said “ummm I would have loved that freaking unicorn!”
So that was that, and I was planning on buying it for the nursery once things were set up. WELL. My brothers bought it for me and gave it to me at the shower and I couldn’t believe it. It is SO cute. Eddie loves it, probably because it sort of looks like a horse. Sometimes I just go upstairs and stare at it’s adorableness. And for some reason, just the fact that it’s from my brothers? Makes it even more special. Cue emotional meltdown.
Okay I need to be done. I realize I have a blog which can be a very vain and narcissistic thing at times but this post seems *extra* all about me so I feel like a rambly jerk. And at the same time, I wanted to do a knocked up update. Thank you so much for reading this ridiculous 2338 word vomit with large blocks of text. My specialty!!
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Exciting!! I have a 7 week old and the baby room was completed when i was 6 months pregnant. She has not slept in the room even once yet!
good that you didnt wash the clothes yet! At 20 weeks if you’ve washed all your baby clothes you would probably want to wash the dust off by the time you deliver ;)
Babies are just so exciting! I can hardly stand it!
Don’t worry about being prepared, you have plenty of time for nursery stuff. That little munchkin will probably crash in your room for what seems like forever anyway! :)
P.S.- What a beautiful shower! You are one lucky girl!
You are so adorable. Im just as shocked as you Jess. I know you are still a kid at heart. lol. You will be a great mom. xoxo
ok, so first let me say that you look absolutely gorgeous, and don’t freak out, keeping a baby alive is actually much easier that you think and you don’t need a lot of stuff. When we had our baby last year, I couldn’t even decorate the nursery, we had a one bedroom apartment, and only after the baby birth where schedule to move into 2 bedrooms, so I got a pack & play in which the baby slept for 5 month. I liked it since it was easy to move from one room to another, only when Sebastian was 5 months we got an actual crib.
Also, I have the Motorola baby monitor (Motorola Digital 2.8″ Video Baby Monitor – MBP33S) and its really good, we use it every single day, and take it with us on vacations. The sound system is so good, you can hear you baby breathing, you can see his chest moving even if its dark in the room, the night vision is also great. Its a great purchase.
Now, I also have the Stokke xplory in dark blue, and I am very happy that I got it, I am very, very happy with the stroller and their customer service is great. I also have a Graco travel system jogging stroller, that what we used for the first few months. The Stokke is very stylish, and you have no idea how light and easy its to maneuver, feels weightless, the baby loves it because he can face forward or back, and you can adjust how high he sits too, its a cool stroller.
Let me know if you need more information :)
Jessica,
I’m glad you’re doing so well!! My wife and I had a baby daughter (our first) this past August, and I’m above and beyond excited for you guys. It’s pretty much the coolest, most incredible thing in the world. We’re sending you both all of our love and support from California.
Also, let me know if you need to pick anyone’s brain about baby advice, recommended purchases, or simply just to vent about baby life – as we’re still in the thick of it all as we speak :P For what it’s worth, we ended up getting the uppababy stroller and LOVE it.
Yay!! So exciting! Have a wonderful last few weeks of pregnancy. xo
I don’t have kids, but I do have an elderly father that lives alone. As strange as this is, we got a dropcam from the Apple Store, and I think it would be an amazing baby monitor. There’s an app for your phone or iPad, and a website. You can also invite other people to view your camera – for your husband or parents – and later it can work as a nanny cam.
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Jessica- you are so adorable! And I love LOVE reading about your pregnancy!
Xo
OMG Jessica I could probably write 2300 words about how much I love this post but I just adore it and you so much. That diaper bag is freaking AWESOME and you need it and I’m so glad you found it! I’m obsessed with your baby shower. Like obsessed. That risotto looks out of this world I want to just dive my face right into the bowl. I’m swooning over those darling desserts and those fantastically precious succulents. I just can’t even. Obsessed over all of it. Not to mention you are so freaking adorable pregnant. I’m really digging the silhouette photo and as much as I hate copy cats (this you know lolllll! insert wink face here) I will probably have to take a similar pic bc it is just out of control darling. Okay I’ll leave you along now and stop obsessing (or try at least). Enjoy these next few weeks!!!
so so so exciting! i’m not a baby person, but i alway love reading your updates :)
xo, cheyenne
We love our uppababy vista! We were debating on stroller for a long time especially between the vista and Cruz and I am so glad we got the vista! I also have the mesa car seat and I love that the babe can face you either in the car seat or stroller. We also liked that we could add a rumble seat for when two comes some day! It feels pretty heavy duty to me. Definitely worth the investment We also used the bassinet way more than I thought!
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Seriously, don’t sweat the nursery. When my kids were newborns we hardly used their room at the beginning. They can be set-up to sleep in any room you want them and you’ll want he or she closest to you. Your shower looked fabulous. I like the brunch idea at a restaurant. The food!!!! That unicorn is precious and totally appropriate for a boy or girl.
I just wanted to say thank you for being so open and honest about your pregnancy. I’m 32 weeks and have also experienced weird/random bouts of anxiety and depression during my pregnancy, for no reason at all. Kinda freaky, but so nice to know I’m not alone.
I have 2 boys (who are 20 somethings now) and I LOVE the unicorn rocker! Rock on sweet baby!
I have the uppababy vista and love it. I have a 2nd child now and still use it with the riding board (it’s not practical with the rumble seat). I use it like crazy with the maxi cosi adapters and mico infant seat. My 2 year old still loves riding in the main seat when he can. It was worth every penny. But I also bought and love the baby jogger city mini. I bought it in a double after my second. The original is 14 pounds and folds with one hand. I used them both equally over the first year of my first child’s life. Now I use the baby jogger double + uppa baby single with kick board equally. Love them both. Good luck deciding!
http://m.shop.nordstrom.com/s/timi-leslie-marie-antoinette-diaper-bag/3514923?origin=PredictiveSearch-personalizedsort&contextualcategoryid=2375500&fashionColor=&resultback=0
Side note. I have this one and love it. It washes excellently in the washer too. Just another option.
I have the motorola color screen w/2 cameras and LOVE IT! My only complaint is that the battery doesn’t last super long so I keep it plugged in most of the time, but I’m approaching 2 years with this monitor and it has been awesome. I also really recommend the 2 cameras because you can set one up and keep one in your bag for traveling or at your parent’s house, etc. I keep one permanently at my mom’s because my daughter is there a lot. Also, when/if you have more kiddos then you will have a camera for each room and won’t need an additional monitor!
Everything will get done in good time. So fun that you had the shower. I always think that makes everything much more real.
Oh, that rocker is just adorable.
Can I say I’m not surprised that you’re not prepared. If you were, the. It would be this weird soon-to-be-mommy Jessica, and. It real life Jessica. Haha. You really don’t need all that STUFF set up anyway. Your baby will be with to and Eddie the majority of the time, and you may just go to the nursery to change a diaper. Or to stare at the rocker a little more. Newborns require the basic necessities. You can worry about that all later.
My only recommendation is to paint now vs. later. I’m freak about the toxicity of fumes, and it’s better to just get that out of the way.
Oh, and my monitor recomendation is summer infant, all the way. Inexpensive and gets the job done.
*not real life Jessica.
Typing on the iPad blows.
I enjoyed all 2300 words on your pregnancy update! All I can say is PLEASE continue to do baby updates (even after the little babe has arrived)..maybe a full on baby section?!? yes please.
OH the nursery will wait. Don’t stress. Please. You know what the baby will need for about 4 weeks? you, and your boobs. Or a bottle. Whichever choice you make. He/She will need love and attention and diaper changes. They won’t need a fancy room with a perfectly made crib with bumpers that have to come off soon anyway. You, however, will need a comfortable chair in which to rock the baby in the middle of the day, in the middle of the night, in the middle of whenever. (I think I already mentioned that USA Baby on Babcock has fantastic selection of comfy rockers? they also have the 4Moms stroller, a local PGH company which probably would help you out with a momaroo, too – they are in the Strip)
You got this, momma.
Also, Avenue B is one of my favorites. Love them.
I’m absolutely buzzing for you!! Time really has crept up. I can’t even imagine what the hormone feel like, just try and detach yourself from the mood chemicals flowing through your body – they don’t really match up to how YOU feel and they’ll just serve to confuse you right? Beautiful photo of you :)
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I hadn’t checked your blog for a little while so it’s a nice surprise to read about this big development! Congrats!! Don’t worry about not having done much to prepare. I was the same for both of my pregnancies because I was so incredibly worried about something going wrong that I didn’t want to jinx it or get too excited. For my first, I was a little better and the nursery was eventually done before she was born but I didn’t wash any baby clothes! I just had my second 4 weeks ago and I seriously did nothing..AND it really is an out of body experience. You will seriously feel like you’re living in a dream after he or she is born. And if you’re planning on breastfeeding, you will definitely have an appetite then. Breastfeeding makes a person ravenous with thirst and hunger..and that is actually the reason I am visiting your blog. Because I am nursing my little guy and so freaking hungry right now! Anyway, enjoy the birth of your son or daughter (and, yes, it will feel so weird the first time you can say one of those words in reference to your child)..it is an amazing and very life-changing experience (cliche, I know..but SO true!).
Jesssiiicaa! I feel as though I can write that since I have been a long time reader & seem to vacation “up north” at the same time as you. I had my baby boy exactly one year and one week ago. IT ALL WORKED OUT FINE!! He’s a nearly walking, babbling, viking hat wearing, granola bar, vegetable eating little muffin I never could have even imagined last year. Just hold that little baby as much as you can because the days are long but the years travel at the speed of light. You are going to be a great mom!! It is all going to be ok. Also, if it helps, we did not buy a monitor because I prefer to actually go in the room and check on him. Instead, I spent the $200 on cute baby Gap clothes.
P.S. Gap jammies are the best and you will still eat like a teenage boy if you choose to breastfeed. SNACKS are a must. Also, I have visions of actually trying to feed my future (giant) teenage son and have already bookmarked some of your recipes to remember for then!
Not to add to your overwhelming decision making (I was soooo overwhelmed, and my daughter came three weeks early and we really weren’t prepared), but the Stokke Xplory is AMAZING and worth every penny. I can’t imagine anyone who has one not agreeing! It’s not good for off-roading or running or tiny trunks, but it’s a perfect city stroller. I’ve been loving ours for two years and am so glad we bought one. And I still think it’s the most beautiful stroller I’ve ever seen!
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Do you have a makeup / body product pregnancy post??? I can’t find it!